There are certain scenes in your favorite steamy stories that you can’t wait to see appear on the page. When you get to that point in a book where the characters you’ve been wanting to get together the whole time are finally about to hook up, you’re not going to put the book down. You’re going to feverishly tear through the pages with the ferocity of a crazed tiger.
It’s the best part—the climax if you will—that you’ve been waiting for. And when it’s finally about to happen, nothing could tear you aware from that book.
But have you ever taken a step back, and thought about the last time that you were that excited about your own sex life? It seems that some women will be more impatient and irritated if the story on the page doesn’t work out than what they’re actually experiencing in real life.
Your Tango says that the one of the top reasons women are dissatisfied with the sexual relationship with their partner is because they’re bored. They stated that “women want more out of their sexual relationships than having sex in the same place, the same way, and at the same time. A predictable sex life is generally associated with a boring sex life which can lead to dissatisfaction.”
Few seem to realize they can enjoy their erotic literature while having a sex life just as satisfying by choosing the right, high-quality books—like in Black Lies by Alessandra Torre, Taint by S.L. Jennings, or Burned by Tara Sivec —and using them for inspiration. What better way that improving something in your life that you already do and enjoy than by finding a way to combine the two? An erotica novel is just like every other book in that you should let it positively influence you. Stories like Eat Pray Love have created a wave of women desiring adventure and new experiences. When considering your sex life, your erotica should be no different.
Did the characters enjoy a impromptu romp while cooking dinner? Nothings stopping you from doing the same next time you have the house to yourself. Did the characters spice things up with a new toy? Introducing something new into the bedroom can be the change that you may need in your love life to make it more satisfying. In some cases, there may even be an underlying similarity between the two. “A good dildo is like a good book,” adult product purveyor Adam & Eve notes on their website. long and thick and hard to put down!” If you like reading about it, chances are pretty likely that you’re doing yourself a disservice by not trying it out.
So, are you just as satisfied with your real sex life as you are with your erotica? Each time you have less-than-satisfying sex, you’re letting another opportunity pass you by. Use your erotica to your advantage. You won’t be disappointed.
